We recently had the chance to connect with Esmeralda Anderson and have shared our conversation below.
Esmeralda, a huge thanks to you for investing the time to share your wisdom with those who are seeking it. We think it’s so important for us to share stories with our neighbors, friends and community because knowledge multiples when we share with each other. Let’s jump in: What do you think others are secretly struggling with—but never say?
In my opinion, many people struggle with self-love in private, especially giving individuals. They find it difficult to be entirely honest or simply say “NO.” They tend to prioritize others’ needs over their own, which can ultimately affect mental health, family life, or even business growth. Personally, it took me a long time and growth to learn the process of putting myself first and learning how to say no without guilt.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
My name is Esmeralda Anderson, though I’m more widely known as Lola. As a multifaceted individual, I’ve assumed various roles, including freelance photographer, (Ray of Sunshine Photographs), mother, wife, friend, occasional little league coach, Muscular Dystrophy warrior and now a children’s book author. My initial passion for coaching emerged at age 15, followed by a natural progression to photography after the birth of my second child. However, over the past three years, I’ve been navigating the complexities of Muscular Dystrophy, a genetic illness with no cure, which frequently impacts my daily activities. And primarily it’s affecting my mobility but most importantly my ability to do full time photography. As a result of the rarity of my condition, I’ve faced challenges from finding a neurologist, to educating people on this illness. Leading me to assume a more proactive role in managing my illness on my own. This has involved conducting research, experimenting with different approaches, such as diet restrictions and weight lifting. So now I utilize photography as an outlet whenever possible. The mental struggles associated with my condition have proven to be far more exhausting than the physical challenges, prompting me to explore creative avenues, such as writing children’s stories, and hiking/exploring whenever my body allows me.
Appreciate your sharing that. Let’s talk about your life, growing up and some of topics and learnings around that. What’s a moment that really shaped how you see the world?
A pivotal moment that shaped my worldview was when I relocated from my home state to join my now husband, leaving behind friends and family. I had always been a dedicated friend and family member, so I naturally assumed that those relationships would remain unchanged despite the distance. However, this was not the case. As I was no longer physically present to meet their needs, people gradually stopped reaching out, family members never visited, and close friends eventually disappeared. Before I realized it, I had established a new family away from my immediate family, but only a handful of friends and family made the effort to know them. This experience taught me to appreciate and enjoy the present moment and those small moments with my husband and kids.
What did suffering teach you that success never could?
One thing that suffering has taught me that success never will is that hard isn’t really that hard, rather like approaching a storm with boldness instead of running away from it, if that makes any sense.
Alright, so if you are open to it, let’s explore some philosophical questions that touch on your values and worldview. Is the public version of you the real you?
It depends who you ask. People see me in different lights – some think I’m a wild extrovert, socialite , while others make assumptions about my life based off social media. Both are okay, because my feelings are real and what you meet is what you get, I can’t get any more real than that . But when it comes to my family, and home life I’m private. Only a select few get to see the real me, and those are the people I’ve chosen to let in.
Okay, we’ve made it essentially to the end. One last question before you go. When do you feel most at peace?
I have a profound appreciation for nature and the mountains. Ideally, a mountainous landscape with lush greenery, large trees, serene creeks, and perfect 60-degree sunny weather is my notion of paradise and peace . However, residing in Texas , I find peace in my home garden, where I cultivate herbs, spices, and food.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://rayofsunshine.pixieset.com/
- Instagram: Esmierod
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/esmierod
Image Credits
Esmeralda Anderson
